Are you aware of the amount of decisions that we make per day?
When you Google for that information, it will give you some alarming statistics concerning the amount of decisions, large and small, that we as individuals make every day. The result was shocking for me. Go ahead and try it and see.
The point I am making is that we are always making decisions that affect our life or business and the lives of others in some way. And you would think that after doing this for over 50 years that I would be pretty darn good at it, don’t you think? But that is not always the case.
Yes, I have gotten really good at making some decisions and I feel really comfortable making them for myself and weighing the outcome. I have really worked hard over the years to get to know me at a deeper level so I could make better decisions.
But what I’ve learned, in talking to a lot of people, is that so many people don’t really, really know themselves well enough to feel sure when they are making decisions. They are doubtful about whether it’s the right decision or not.
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We as women have to learn to trust ourselves enough to know when we are making smart moves and good decisions. And I will share with you today some ways to tap into yourself and become more closely attuned to who you are so that you don’t struggle when having to make decisions. So you can stop doubting yourself!
I talked about that in my podcast this week where I openly shared my struggles with being able to trust myself confidently over the past year. It has been a long journey for sure.
In my opinion, the main issue is that we have so much information coming at us on a daily basis and people are sharing so freely that we have a lot of choices. Because we have so many choices it puts us in a state of indecisiveness.
So, we’re looking at this person over here and we are looking at that person over there and seeing what they’re doing and trying to decide which direction we should go.
A big part of that is just not having your own personal clarity. When things are foggy and the path is not clear, we tend to look around for guidance, assistance or ideas. We have to figure out how to be able to do that responsibly and also gain clarity in the midst of all of that.
So first thing first. Having good clarity about what you do in your life or business is based on your desires, passion and your purpose. So, one place to start is to make sure that you are clear on those three things.
What is it that you desire most for your life at this stage in your life? What are the things that drive you to be your greatest self? What do you feel is your purpose in life and what is tugging on your heart as a part of that purpose?
Being able to really sort that out helps with the clarity you need to trust yourself. You have to trust your gut – your intuition and ask the Universe or God for help.
Here is the other thing, because we live a life where we have made decisions in the past and some of those decisions may have brought about tragedy or difficult situations, we lose trust in our ability to trust ourselves. We don’t forgive ourselves for the past and we continue to carry that burden with us into our future selves.
In order to wipe the slate clean and to begin to know yourself better as you move through different stages in life, you have to forgive yourself for past mistakes.
That is the only way to begin to rebuild the trust you need for YOU moving forward. You will never be able to trust other people or your judgment if you are not trusting of yourself. Stop doubting you!
And lastly, there are some assessments that you can take to help you determine your strengths and weaknesses. Making sound decisions may not be one of your strengths but it is something you can always learn. There are classes you can take on decision making and webinars or conferences you can attend that will help you learn the skills necessary to become better at making decisions for your life or business.
There is always an open opportunity for you to be able to improve yourself and get the skills you need to stop doubting yourself and be a better you.
Listen, we have all been there and we are all in this together. I always call myself a work in progress but I have to keep in mind that the progress I need to make does not begin until I actually start the work. Hoping, wishing and talking about what needs to happen does not bring about change or improvement in your lives.
Talk is cheap. So to see improvements you’ve got to commit to doing the work. I know that it can be scary at times and the unknown is a little fearful but in order to be the best you YOU can possibly be, this is essential.
You must learn to trust yourself! If you feel that you have not had the right opportunity to trust yourself start working today to learn how to rebuild that trust in who you are and what you can do, don’t hesitate! So you can stop doubting yourself!
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What are you holding back from trusting yourself to do today? Comment below and let me know.