When I was in school, I was really tiny so I was a prime target for a little bullying. My sister, who was 2 years older than I was, was definitely not tiny. Actually people saw her as an amazon type woman which really worked out for me. She was there to keep the bullies away. So that didn’t last long.
I was fortunate I had help but many other kids don’t. My guest on the podcast this week, Kierra Douglas, did a really cool thing and developed an app to helps kids report their bullying abuse anonymously. How freaking cool is that? If you have a child, consider checking this out for them.
But that's not the only place bullying occurs. Bullying is not just a school age thing!
Nope, not by a long shot. Bullying happens in many different situations and ways as we interact in different relationships with our peers and friends daily. Sometimes we are prone to just brush it off but you may be doing the bully a disservice by doing so.
Please know that it not okay for someone else to make you feel small or unworthy. You are special and unique and so amazing. Bullies come out of the woodworks to stroke their own egos in an attempt to make the ugliness in them feel better. Not on my watch! Not at my expense!
Being able to overcome bullying in any situation requires you to rise up and be firm in who you are. It is a time to let your light shine and let the bully know that their words mean nothing and are of no consequence to you. It is a time for to express love to yourself and the other person so that they will see the beauty of you and how their ugliness has no affect.
Dethrone the bully!
The best thing you can do is dethrone the bully and regain your power. Remember, whatever is happening is not about you but about the bully and the self loathing they feel inside. Hold fast to your confidence keep focused and know that their is nothing wrong with you. The bully is usually trying to get in your head so don’t let them win.
Bully’s just want to matter and to belong. Showing the bully an abundance of love and tolerance can make the difference between a behavior that is ongoing or being able to stop a bully in their tracks.